| Location | Thamesmead |
| Age | 43 years |
| Date of Birth | 05/05/1963 |
| Date of Death | 26/03/2007 |
| Visitors | 8,628 since 28/03/2007 |
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where do i start... Kevin was brought up in belvedere by his mum, dad, sisters Christine, Rosie,
Jackie, Diane and brother Barry. 20 years ago he extended his family by meeting my mum and became an
amazing dad to myself and my brother Aaron and a grandad to Stacie and Taylor.
Kevin was an amazing man who would so anything for anyone and never had a bad word to say about
anyone. he never had the easiest of lives after the loss of his dad and then losing his much loved
mum. his grieving never stopped there he lost my grandad who he looked up to then lost his sister
Jackie which broke his heart.
in 2006 Kevin was diagnosed with cancer, a very rare type of cancer (he never did things simple) and
started a long battle, he needed to have a very serious operation, in which we wasn't given very
good odds for his survival. but he pulled through the 9 hour operation and began his recovery..
during this time we lost my uncle.. who was a very special person to Kevin, no longer had he been
out of hospital he was attending a funeral. in February 2007 he was finally given the all clear..
his fighting had paid off!!
that happiness was very short lived when in the same month after a routine check up revealed that
the cancer was back, this time worse, it was an adreanal cancer on the liver!! within weeks he
encountered so many other problems, he developed an infection in his liver.. a blood clot in the
inferior vena cava which all resulted inalot of water trapped in his legs. once again Kevin was
admitted into hospital, determined to fight again...
he went through a long struggle but hope was at hand when a drug was brought over from america to
treat the type of cancer he had,as soon as the drug arrived he began to take it along with all the
other medication he had... he was so scared of what might happen but we all reasured him he would be
ok and that we would get through it together.
side affects began to kick in... confusion was the main one it was heart breaking to see go through
this... but he fought on and he fought hard. as the dose was put up he got worse till in the end it
had to be stopped as it was killing him... but not all was lost we concentrated on trying to fight
this infection and the water on his legs because then he could go back on the chemo....
he never got better... his condition deteriated till on friday the 23rd march all our hopes were
taken from us when we was told there was jnow nothing they could do for him... he was given 1-2
weeks to live. i dont need to tell you how our world fell apart in that very second.. the man who we
all loved so much... the man who never did any wrong was going to be taken from us!
Kevin was afraid of dying so we didnt tell him, which was one of the hardest things we had to do..
how can you sit by a man so innocent and tell him to fight, that hes getting better when you know
hes dying... i dont know how we all did it but we did. by sunday he was barly consious but still
this amazing man was fighting, he so wanted to live and he had so much to live for, he planned to
fish in ireland with his brother, he wanted to see his grandson make it as a footballer, he had
discovered a great friend in his nephew Micheal and his gf Alex but most of all he wanted to beat
this and live his life with the woman he loved so dearly... my mum.
by around 9pm that sunday night kevin had lost conciousness and i think we all knew this was going
to be it...
it was... Kevin took his last breath at 4:40am with his loved ones at his side... the love of his
life.. myself, his brother Barry and his sister in law Wendy.
how can a man die just 2 days after being told he had 1-2 weeks to live!
Kevin was a great man who loved fishing, he went on many fishing holidays with friends and has
millions of pictures showing all the fish he had caught, these once boring pictures will now be
treasured. he also had a passion for computers, he was always trying something new and many times
things would go wrong and the whole system would go down but he kept at it till it was all up and
working again... self taught he also fixed computers for others only ever charging them for what he
had payed out for.
Kevin was also a very hard worker, he could never stand to be out of work as was very much loved by
all of his work mates!
As you can tell Kevin was a very very much loved man with such a huge heart, he was taken from his
friends and family much too soon....
and yes, only the good die young and Kevin who was only 43 really one of these people!!!
Kev thank you for everything you have done for us all, i can tell you from the bottom of my heart
you will never be forgotton we love you now and forever... until we meet again goodnight and god
bless xx i love you xx ( kiss and a hug from taylor)
05/05/63 to 26/03/2007
ALSO ON GONETOOSOON, MY UNK - BARRY KEITH BUTCHER
MY GRANDAD - RAYMOND BUTCHER
hi mate............where do i start what do i say i know you are still around i can feel you, i talk to you all the time hopeing that you hear me, i so want to see you just to tell you if i ever did anything wrong im sorry, bet frank was pleased to see you ...hows the fishing? kev this is so hard i wished i was with you i dont want to be here i am trying but i cant do this, i need you to push me like you did when dad,and barry-boy died.you made it all right now i aint got anyone to make it right. kev if i hadnt told you to go would you be here would you {have got through it,} i will never know but i do wonder,you are never off my mind hope we are together soon miss you sleep tightxxxxxxxxxxxxxgod bless youx
hi kev kev,as soon as i saw ur face on here i cried,ur a lovely lovely man and im so sorry i never got to say goodbye,but i am so glad you have no more pain.you were a man who went out of his way to help people(you helped me loads).i will miss you xxx kaykay xxx
help
hi mate...kev life is so unfair you should still be here, why couldnt it have been me, you wanted life so much more then me. you wanted to do so much and now you have gone i dont want to do anythink...its so hard i dont even want to walk out the door, i dont want to see people. all the scum on this earth and he took you a person who did no wrong. at this moment i hate the world im sorry i do, you would be saying to me no one is to blame and life goes on and you would make it all right but your not here and i dont know how to make the feelings go away. please look down on me love and help me.......your the bestxxxxxxxx
i miss you
hiya wilf!!! wow its been a long time since ive called you that, i dont even know what started it but that was your name for years xx
i miss you kev and im hurting... i feel so alone and i know many of us are all feeling the same way. i know mums going through hell at the moment but kev i dont know how to help her, i am trying but i dont seem to be doing a good job of it, and now i dont know which way to turn xx
ive tryed so many times to write you a poem (as you know thats what i do) but i cant even do that, im not able to think anything!
its not fair! god i want to turn the clocks back but i cant and its so frustrating.
my mind keeps taking me back to things... i kissed and hugged you bye when you was going back into hospital.. i told you not to worry as you was going to be fine, and i really thought you was... i spoke to you on the phone while you was in hospital as we ended i told you i loved you... you told me you loved me back! that was the last time i told you... im telling you all the time kev that i love you but i have silence in return.
i just dont know how im going to get throught all this xx
i love and miss you kev xx forever and always xx
missing you
hi kev cant sleep again you are never off my mind i cant sleep, i cant eat, and i cant think of anythink but you at this moment... kev i need a hug this is killing me nothing can hurt more than you not being here. the two kids have been so good you would be proud of them. but they dont understand how i feel i wish i could come with you kev i dont think i will ever get over this i just cry all the time. i do try not too but i cant help it i wonder where you are and if your ok. kev i did stay till the end just like i promised you.the hardest thing i have ever done, kev i dont want to go on without you its true what they say you dont know what you have till its gone and i had the best. you are the best i dont know if you can ever see this but it makes me feel better to wright it down on here.i wished i could have done somethink to help you if i could i would have you know that dont you? ill see you soon love sleep tight no more pain ever xxxxxx
As i wipe the tears from my eyes having just read this most heart breaking tribute to this very brave and courageous Man, it makes one think and wonder as to why God has to take the ones who have not only battled to hold onto life, but those who have gone through a war in an effort to try and survive but then it is always a comfort knowing that God always takes the Good ones first, and when He freed Kevin from His pain and suffering He took the very-very best.
My young Sister passed away to Cancer aged just 39 some six years ago, and i know just how much pain and heartbreak your whole Family are going through at this very sad time, You must never feel bad or think that Kevin would ever hate any of you for keeping the secret of his condition to yourselves, by doing what you had to do enabled him to pass away peacefully.
All My Families thoughts and Prayers are with all of Kevin's Loving Family at this very sad time.
Rest in Peace Kevin
Goodnight & God-Bless Mate.
XXXXX.
what a man
this story has actully made me cry, and i always thought i was a hard man. this young man must have had so much love for his heartbroken family to fight all he did. a true fighter, he sounds like such a great man and i know he is going to be greatly missed.
R.I.P kevin watch over your family and help them get through this.
he is now flying with his family he has missed over the years.
my heart and thoughts go out to the family xx
missing you
kev dont know how i will cope with out you i feel like i have lost my right arm.you have left a big hole in so many peoples hearts....i dont know how i will get through this. i couldnt have got this far if it wasnt for barry and wendy they have been a rock. you would be so proud of them because i am...i am so sorry i lied to you and told you that you was gonna get better i hated myself every time i said it i just didnt want you to know how ill you was and that was killing me...i prey there is life after death because then i know i will see you again soon.... i will come and see you next week make sure that you are ok. kev please look down on me and help me through this i need you beside me at all times...love you forever never forget that you was one in a millionxxxxxx
hiya kev
hiya kev... its been 66 hours since you left and it still dont seem real!! i feel so lost without you here, i just cant believe im never going to see you again...
please keep an eye on mum, shes trying so hard to be strong but i know she could do with some strength from you.
i hope you have caught up with your mum and dad... i hope you gave grandad and unk a big kiss for me!! how many things has unk had you fixing?? i bet you have missed that.
im taking your clothes down to the undertakers tomorrow... we have chosen your red england shirt... you always had that on and it was the last shirt you ever wore!
i just wish you would give me a sign that you arrived there ok and that you are alright but i guess you will in time.
i love you kev and always will.... you will never be forgotten xxxx
i love you
kev this isnt fair... why was you taken from us?? i guess only you know the answer to that now!! i hope you found your mum and dad xx please dont hate us for lying to you... we didnt want you to be scared... i hope you knew we was with you till the very end.. i love you so much i dont know what im going to do without you here.. im trying so hard to cope but i dont know if i can... i had to pick out your coffin today... god it killed me xx please help me keep it all together i cant fall apart now xx i love you kev and i always will... i will be coming to see you next week and i will visit you as much as i can till your funeral xx love you xx give grandad and unk a kiss for me please and let them know i love them both too xx
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